they both started yelling and they made him go home. how can I get them to leave/ not tell my parents?! My oldest brother keeps trying to talk to me, but I don't even want to hear his voice!Īnd now, they are staying here till my parents get home. Wow, that's a rough situation, but it has only got one possible solution, you have to talk to them about it. I'm not sure how old/experienced they are, but I'm sure they understand sexual desire. If you tell them the truth, starting with the fact that you have been with this guy seven months prior to doing anything sexual, they may be able to understand. Right now they seem angry, but at the root of that anger if fear, fear that they have failed as brothers to protect and know you. From their point of view, you just met this guy, since you have kept him secret, and they think you are acting like a slut, which would make them bad brothers.
Explain your feelings, explain that you took your time getting to this point, and gave it due consideration, and they may be able to see that you are not acting badly, just have unfortunate timing.
Talk to them, tell them how you feel about this person, especially if they disapprove.
